The WayFinder Program …
Key #2: Success Mapping
You’ve likely heard the phrase, “Begin with the end in mind.” There’s a reason it was included as one of the 7 habits of highly effective people, by Stephen Covey.
Vision is the starting point of all high performance—it’s always easier to hit a target you can see. Having a clear vision of “success” (however you define it) provides a guidance system / clarity to know if you’re on-course, off-course or lost.
Think how much harder it is to complete a jigsaw puzzle, when you don’t have the picture on the lid of the box to guide you! It’s the same in our lives—a clear vision allows us to make decisions / take actions in alignment with our ideal selves/situations—to increase the odds that each day moves us towards, or contributes to, our overall vision of life.
But sadly, it’s easy to get caught up in the busy-ness of our days and ignore or never create a vision in the first place.
What about your teen? What’s the potential cost of them of not having a clear vision and goals?
- Repeated courses or even a term/year?
- Additional tuition?
- Missed career possibilities/opportunities?
- More arguments/stress/frustration?
- “Shame spirals”–as your teen starts to think maybe there is something wrong with THEM?
CASE STUDY 3: Rob's Story
The #1 mistake I see teens and adults alike making is … sleepwalking through their days (and lives)–drifting with no clear aim, purpose or objective; no goals to motivate or excite them … merely getting through their days, instead of FROM their days … and I know what this is like, because this was ME in high school …
- I didn’t see the point of what I was learning, so it seemed boring.
- I rarely planned ahead–usually studying the night before for a test (if at all)
- I often had overdue assignments …
- In Grade 12, I still had no idea what I was working towards or career aspirations
- I repeatedly put fun activities ahead of work. (Anyone else see the similarity to Aesop’s fable, The Ant & The Grasshopper?)
- I had no direction, lousy marks in school, was constantly stressed, always arguing with my Dad, secretly experimenting with alcohol & drugs … and even dropped out of school for a bit. Clearly not a poster child for success.
When I run into people I haven’t seen since high school and they see me now, many are like, “Wow, you turned out a LOT better than we expected!”
Luckily for me, after hitting my “rock bottom”—when I looked around and saw the disconnect between what I wanted in life and where I was, , I finally realized I needed to define some clear goals and a vision of “success” for myself and make some changes.
As the late American success guru Jim Rohn once said, “Don’t wish it was easier, wish you were better,” … and I did. I just wish I had known about this 4-5 years sooner!
Success Mapping made all the difference in my life, and it can in your teen’s life too. Your teen will:
- Increase their chances for success
- Have a reason to keep going when things get hard (and they always do at some point)
- Be happier
- Experience less stressed
- Get excited and more motivated to do “the work”
What doesn’t work???
- Drifting through the day/year/life
- Letting past performance or personal history dictate or predict future results
- Not having options!
What does work?
- Knowing how to answer to important questions like: Who Am I? Why am I Here? What Do I want to do
- Knowing what you are passionate about
- Helping them see a future they’re excited about can kickstart their motivation … and get you off their back
- Do you see how adding Success Mapping, can save time, money, and maybe a few grey hairs?